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[cant_even]

[all failed wards eventually warded private]

[Warded to Bash & Jo]

Can you control your f

[Warded to Zach & Ree]

My Prefects love these a
Wait so do you

[Warded to Prefects]

So somehow you all miss

[Warded, Private]

I wanna go home.

[Warded to Rosy Stoker]

Can you teach me how to make people shut up
I need your help.

[Warded to Casper]

Hey

Comments

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

What can I do for you?

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

Everyone respects you a lot and you're kinda scary no on messes with you. How do you do that? Command that respect?

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

I don't fucking know Beat up the biggest person in the room? You'd be amazed what good posture and a solid left hook can do for others' perception of you.

I can't really recommend the left hook, though.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

Well its probably obvious I can't throw a powerful left hook. [...] I've got good posture though.

Is junior year too late to establish or change a reputation?

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

Too late for what? Changing how you're perceived in high school? It's barely past the halfway point. If this was a book, I'd honestly be disappointed if the main character was done changing and growing.

But honestly, my take is... fuck high school and fuck reputation. It's four years of being stuck in some haunted woods, and after that you have a lot more than four years where you don't have to think about it or even go to your high school reunions if you don't want to.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

It's very easy to have that mentality when no one bothers you.

I'll just keep trying to change, then.

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

It's also very easy to assume you know what someone else is dealing with. We all have something going on and the thing we have in common is that we haven't given up.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

I do give up. I don't know how much more I can try just to have it fail. And I'm sorry, the "I'm dealing with stuff" only excuses bad behavior so much. We've all been dealing with bad things. Doesn't make it okay to publicly humiliate be needlessly rudeness to someone.

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

That wasn't to excuse bad behavior, and I do not appreciate having my words twisted around to read that way.

I command respect by never letting others see me sweat. People have tried to bother me my entire life. When someone starts up, I put my chin up, shoulders back, and move on. It's the only way I know how.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

I can't do that. I've been trying and they just target me harder.

Theoretically - how many points does one lose for cursing or jinxing another student?

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

I never said it would be easy, or that it would happen quickly. It's taken me my entire life a lot more than the three plus years I've been in high school to build up a thick skin, and it still doesn't stop people from trying to find a way under it. That's why my focus is on the long run.

If it's premeditated, I'm the bitch taking at least fifty. If it's spur of the moment, I'll take it down to twenty-five.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

So what do you do in the mean time, when people are being [...] awful, and it's not just rolling off your back like nothing? Do you [...] tell someone? Suck it up and ignore it until you explode?

I see. That's not that bad

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

Personally, I punch trees, but that's not very good for your hands. Or the trees. But emotions are also vulnerabilities that should be hidden at all costs so I'm probably the worst person to ask about this But if you have a non-arboreal ally you can trust not to use it against you, it's good to just let it out sometimes. Not because you're looking for solutions necessarily, but just to vent.

I would also recommend detention, but that's up to Ferdie, Nia, or the staff.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

I don't really have any friends as they like to point out so freq Right, yeah. That is a good idea.

I don't think detention is going to help any. It'll just make it worse, won't it? You become a worthless tattle tell and everyone just hates you more. I really don't think I need that in my life.

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

I wouldn't know, I gave up on being liked long before I gave up telling on people.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

I just want to be left alone. I don't care if they like me or not.

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

If you're being harassed and you want it to be dispersed, you can try asking me or another prefect you trust to discretely end it or distract them before it turns into a thing. Nothing is immediate and nothing is perfect, it might not work right away or at all, but killing the momentum early on and without giving them the emotional reaction they were looking for has worked for me in the past.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

Most of it took place without me even responding. I came back to my journal and saw it. I think they just enjoy being awful. Wouldn't telling a Prefect be giving them what they want?

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

That's why I said discreetly and that's why I mentioned killing the momentum in addition to the lack of reaction. I'm really much better at just handling this shit myself than The target doesn't need to be present if they get going with each other. It happens on the Anonymous posts all the time.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

How do you kill the momentum?

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

Depends on who it is and what's happening. I might make a joke to cut the tension, I might bluntly tell them to just move along and that they're not getting what they want today, I might just distract them. Sometimes I just make myself the distraction and suck the fun out of it. It takes some nuance and manipulation.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

Maybe I'll [...] try that. I don't really trust most pre Thank you for the advice, Rosy.

Issy/Rosy

[browbeats]

I highly doubt anything I said was even remotely helpful but If it doesn't work, I stay up late and wake up early, so you can usually ask me to step in. I don't read everything on the journals because my textbooks are a lot more interesting, but I keep an eye out for wards to me.

Issy/Rosy

[cant_even]

Alright. Thank you, Rosy. If [...] what I try doesn't work, I'll let you know.

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

[...] Hey.

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

Is it bad to still be homesick?

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

[...] I think that depends on how much of an impact it's having on you.

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

Oh. I see. What if its Nevermind, then. You were just

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

[...] Is something going on, Sargent?

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

I'm just [...] not cut out for this place. I get picked on depressed here.

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

Can you be more specific?

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

I get [...]

People make fun of me sometimes. And I'm not [...] as strong as everyone else is, I guess. I have a hard time ignoring it.

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

[...] Most people don't start out strong, Sargent. And that's a shitty situation to be in.

Is this happening on the journals or in-person or both?

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

I know. "Grow a thicker skin" etc. I mean I guess I am handling it better than l

Mostly on the journals.

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

Do you want my advice or are you going to give it for me?

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

I'd like your advice.

Issy/Casper

[casperkim]

All right.

[.....] You can't force yourself to have a thicker skin. Confidence or experience or resolve can make some of the shit that people do or say matter less but that doesn't do much good right now. All I can tell you is that not letting those people see that it bothers you or removing yourself from the situation, either by walking away or closing your journal, will do a lot of good. Even if it's fucking hard to do. Instead of wasting your time with that put your energy toward something productive or something that will put you in another headspace. Or talk to someone. That's [...] maybe the most important thing. At least it was for me.

Reaching out to a prefect is also an option. We aren't always there but if we know what's going on we can intervene and try to shut things down. And you can still distance yourself from it. Though, relying on us isn't always going to be

[...] That said, I'm probably not the best person to be giving out advice. There are people here that have their shit together more than I do.

Issy/Casper

[cant_even]

I know, and I know I haven't been doing my best to ignore it. I could be doing better.

[...] But why? Why do we always need to just be quiet and ignore it? It just allows these people to find a new target to bully. They never learn. It's wrong

You gave me very good advice when we first got here and [...] I trust you more than other p. I'll go to someone else next time if you prefer.

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